We shouldn’t forget that Friendships are Relationships

Finding a new friend is like dating. You talk to the person, there’s a connection, then the two of you decide to hang out together and if you like each other enough, then daily phone calls are made. That’s the beginning.

How about the end? Can the end of friendships be nasty and heart-breaking as personal relationships are? I’ll like to answer that with a YES.
I recall last year when my ex (who was very upset that I left him for my current boyfriend) decided to tell all of our mutual friends about how nasty I am…well, how nasty I could be. I honesty didn’t mind losing most of them, but one of the friendships lost really shook me. IT REALLY SHOOK ME.
You know that feeling in your stomach, that empty hollowness like someone scooped it right out, leaving you defenseless and feeling a bit silly? Well, that’s how I felt. I was devastated. OMG, he broke up with me, was my exact thought. I was dumped - by a friend, but dumped nonetheless. Break-ups are so harsh on our egos.

So what do you do after the pain subsides? You get back into the game and make more friends!

I remember how my friendship with my best friend Torian began. We met through a mutual friend. There was a connection between us from the start. We began talking through AIM, then the phone, until one day he popped the question, “Let’s hang out.” I have to admit, that I was nervous at first and it took me an entire week until I agreed.
Then we went out, had fun, and by the end of the day I was sure that we would like to see more of each other. Till this day we are friends.

So the point of this entry is: Lose a friend, make another. Friendships are just like relationships, except you don’t have to be monogamous.